DAY FOUR: GAIN SELF CONFIDENCE

One of the most effective ways to improve you self confidence is through affirmations. Affirmations are a way for you to change any belief that may be holding you back. A well written affirmation can help you to achieve the outcome in life that you desire. Whether we like it or not, we self talk to ourselves all day. However if you don’t take control of this self talk it can easily become negative. These are negative affirmations such as “I’m not a confident person.” Or “I’m going to fail.” You will need to replace the negative affirmations with positive affirmations.

Make Sure You Are Addressing The Core Issue. When we write our affirmation we have to make sure that we are addressing the real issue. What you see as the problem you want to remedy may only be a symptom of a more underlying problem. For example you may say you want a raise of $50 a week. But perhaps the real issue is one of self confidence or motivation.

Next you want to write your affirmations in the present tense. For example “I now weigh 70 kilograms.” Is in the present tense where as “I am going to weigh 70 kilograms” Is not. The difference is important because your mind doesn't know exactly when this is going to take place, so you may be waiting a while.

Affirmations have to be about YOU. You cannot write affirmations about other people. For example “My employees are a hard working, diligent and always on time.” Instead an affirmation would be more along the lines of “I lead people to accomplish all that they can with passion and excitement.” Remember NLP is concerned with SELF Improvement. Change yourself first and the world will follow.

Use energy in your affirmations. Use words such as passionate, excited, and delighted. You want your affirmations to have force. Find the words that are right for you and drive you one. Also remember that your affirmation should be positive. Never write what you don’t want only what you do want. However if you are having trouble identifying exactly what it is that you do want. First write down what it is that you don’t want. For example “I don’t want to be thin.” The opposite is that you want to be thin and healthy, this is your affirmation.

Keep your affirmation short and specific, so that they have a greater impact. If appropriate you could include numbers or who you will be with.

Next when you say your affirmation use visualisation. In your mind act as if that state has already come to pass. Your mind cannot differentiate between what is in your mind and what is real. If you visualise with regularity and intensity then eventually your mind has no choice but to close the gap between external reality and your current situation..