One of the major reasons that people become interested
in NLP is for personal development. Almost all of us feel that we are not quite
at the level that we could be performing at. Not only is this a feeling
natural, it is a good one too. The desire to develop oneself is what drives us
forward to a higher plane of greatness. NLP can provide you with the tools that
you need to develop yourself into the person you know you can be.
One of the major difficulties we face is to move
forward even when things are going very badly for us. It is easy to move
forward when the world seems to be going in our favour. But when we face
adversity we often feel resource less and unable to summon motivation. One of
the great things about NLP is that you can use the technique known as anchoring
to quickly bring yourself back into a state of resourcefulness and confidence.
Once you are in this state you will be ready to tackle whatever challenges you
face.
An anchor can be defined as an external stimulus which
sets off an internal state. We already have anchors in place. It’s just that we
are usually unaware of them. The smell of fried chicken is a classic example of
an anchor, which stimulates a certain reaction. For most people this is an
internal state of hunger and desire. The interesting thing to realise is that
NLP offers you the tools to change what this anchor means for you. Imagine if
you were trying to lose weight and you could change the anchor of the smell of
fried food to one of disgust rather than hunger. Wouldn’t this be a useful
thing to be able to do?
One of the things most people want from personal
development is to discover a way to put ourselves into a resourceful state.
Here is a simple way for you to be able to create a resourceful state on cue.
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Firstly
get clear exactly about what kind of state you want to be in. One of the keys
to NLP is to be clear about your intentions. How do you want to feel in your
resourceful state? Do you want to be energetic? Do you want to be calm? Do you
want to be confident? You need to know exactly what resourceful means to you.
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Next
think back to a time when you were in that resourceful state. You need to find
a time when you felt resourceful, however it does not need to be similar to the
situation you are in now.
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Finally
you want to relive that time now in your mind. Whenever you are visualising
something in your mind with NLP it is important to be very clear about what it
looks like. You need to recall exactly the sight, sounds, smells and feelings
of what that time was like. Give yourself enough time to vividly recall what it
was like. Your image should be like you would see in a movie. Full of color and
sound.
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Once
you have achieved your peak resourceful state it is time to set your anchor.
Generally a hand movement makes a good anchor. Typical hand movements are
clenching the fist. Or making a circle with the thumb and first finger.
Now in the future whenever you need to get back to
that resourceful state simply fire the anchor. Just do the same hand motion
that you did at that time in order to trigger the state. Repetition is key
here. You may need to reinforce the anchor over a period of time for it to
stick in your mind.
Another very useful NLP tool when it comes to NLP is
modelling. Modelling is one of the fastest ways for you to achieve success. At
its essence it say that if you do the same things as someone who is already
having success in the area that you want to achieve in, then you can replicate
that success. There are many ways for you to learn new skills. For example you
could go to class or read a book. Bur the fastest way to accelerate the process
is through modelling.
In modelling you are looking for an exemplar. This is
someone who is particularly competent in the area in which you wish to succeed.
This person becomes a model of how a person can succeed in this area. When you
are modelling someone you want to look for underlying patterns in the way that
they behave. You want to examine not just their physical actions but also their
beliefs s and values. It is important that you get to the root of these if you
want to achieve the same level of success as they have.
To be a successful modeller you have to be questioning
and an excellent observer. Mastering the skill of modelling can have a massive
impact on your success however so it is well worth learning. Remember that
closer that you can get to the person that you are modelling the easier it will
be to effectively model them.
It’s Your Future
NLP offers techniques and knowledge to help you in
almost every area of your life. One of the fantastic things about NLP is that
it is a constantly developing and evolving field. As we learn more about how
the human brain works and what drives us NLP adapts.
Remember NLP is only effective if you put it into
practise. Simply reading the principles found within this book and will not
change anything in your life. You must take action. NLP has the tools change
your life in ways that you could only dream were possible. But you are the only
one who can make it happen.
Per aspera ad astra!
“Through difficulties to the
stars!”
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