How to Use the Power of NLP to Change Your Life in 7 Days

CONTENTS

Day One: Improve Your Health

Day Two: How to Persuade a Crowd

Day Three: How to Sell To Anybody

Day Four: Gain Self Confidence

Day Five: Create Fantastic Relationships

Day Six: Manage Your Time Effectively

Day Seven: Step Up To Success

WELCOME TO 7 DAYS TO NLP SUCCESS!

In “7 days to NLP Success: How to Persuade Anyone, Lose Weight and Achieve Anything.” I’ve broken down some of the basic NLP principles into seven days. On each day you will learn a little about a basic NLP principle and how you can use this to improve a specific area of your life.

To start your journey of discovery about Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) there are a basic series of presuppositions which will be useful for you to learn. By studying the basic foundational principles you will begin what will hopefully be a life long journey of self discovery and improvement.

The first principle and perhaps the most important is: The map is not the territory. This statement originated with a Polish count by the name of Korzybsk back in 1933. When you experience the world via your senses you make an internal map of this in your brain. Because this map is shaped by your own experiences this internal map will never be the same as anyone else’s. For example if I’m viewing a chess match my internal map will be much different to the one bobby Fischer forms if he watches exactly the same match. We are seeing exactly the same things but his breadth of knowledge, understanding of the game and personal experience will mean that his map will probably be nothing like mine.

We are constantly having sensory data thrust at us. It would be impossible to absorb all the data in a meaningful way so we have to filter this data. The process of filtration is heavily influenced by our values and our beliefs. We in a sense only receive the information that our experiences, social and cultural background are attuned to letting us receive.

For example imagine you are visiting a third world country. You might be amazed at the level of poverty. Because it is so different to your own expectations and experiences you cannot help but be astonished by the level of deprivation. But imagine instead that you were born into this environment, and had never lived anywhere else. To you it would seem normal. You would probably not even notice that there was so much lack or if you did you would just accept it as being a regular part of life. If you want to communicate with someone it becomes much easier if you understand their internal map. People respond to the world according to their internal map. While their behaviour may seem strange to you, it may seem completely irrational. It is based on their internal map.

Another presupposition you will want to take on board is that there is no failure only feedback. Many people allow themselves to get weighed down with what they perceive as past failures. But this is really only feedback. For example it is fact that most successful business people fail in a business venture before finally succeeding. What separates the successful business person from the unsuccessful one it to be able to take a business failure as merely feedback as a strategy this does not work in this context. By taking this information on board they are able to formulate a more successful strategy

One of the most empowering principles that NLP offers is that Individuals have all the resources they need to achieve their desired outcomes. By this it means that while you may not currently have the internal resources that you need to achieve your outcome. You do currently posses the internal resources to find the internal and external resources you will require to achieve your outcome.

Next you should understand every behaviour has a positive intent. Even if the behaviour is non productive it still has a positive intent behind it. This positive intent is called secondary gain. Take for example a gang member who commits a drive by shooting. This would seem to have no positive intent. But there is secondary gain in that he will gain acclaim and recognition amongst his peer. By identifying the person’s positive intent we can find more productive or beneficial ways of satisfying that intention.

“Seven Days to NLP Success” will look at how you can use NLP to improve your health. The core principle behind this is the mind and body are interlinked and affect each other. This is really a pretty simple idea. A healthy mind and body work together and treat each other.

Finally you will also learn later in the book how to use NLP to improve yourself and your social position in life. NLP offers a great tool to speed up your success with the principle Modelling successful performance leads to excellence. If you want to be great in a particular field and you have you can model someone else who is successful in that field and achieve the same outcomes they have.

NLP can assist you in all areas of your life. In particular it can help you to

·        Motivate yourself and others

·        Communicate effectively

·        Think positively

·        Achieve the outcomes that you desire

NLP has been described as the study of human excellence and I think that this is a pretty fitting description. NLP has its origins in the 1970’s when a group of psychologists began to study successful people to see what it was about their behaviour that lead to their success. The psychologists in this group were John Grinder a linguist, Gregory Bateson an anthropologist and Richard Bandler a psychologists. Between them they were the fathers of the discipline we know as Neurolinguist Programming or NLP for short.

NLP is not a static science however and has evolved significantly since then. We know have a much better understanding of human behaviour and thought processes and this has been incorporated into NLP. One of the important things to understand is that we communicate with ourselves as well as communicating with other people. By using NLP we are able to more effectively communicate with and persuade other people. As well as this we also learn how to better communicate with ourselves so that we achieve our desired outcomes.

In Seven Days to NLP Success I have provided you with seven different areas of your life that you can use NLP to improve. Before beginning to use NLP it is important that you set out your intention. Your intentions are the outcome that you want to achieve. Without a clear idea of where we are going it is unlikely that you will reach your desired destination. If you want to go to the grocery store then before you leave your house it’s a good idea to know where it is or at least that you want to actually visit the grocery store. If you just leave your house and start wandering around you might reach the grocery store but it is not likely.

So the first question you need to answer is what area of your life is that you would like to improve? Would you like to a be a more effective public speaker? Would you like to lose weight? Would you like to make money or increase your sales?

The key is to knowing your outcome. NLP has the tools to get you there but you must know what it is that you want to use it for. Some of you may wish to improve in all seven areas of your life covered in this book. That is perfectly acceptable provided that you set this intention from the start.

If this is your first introduction to the world of NLP then you are in for a special treat. Understanding that there are actual tools that you can use to change any aspect of your life can be incredibly liberating. Remember the tools are there for you to use but it is up to you to put them to work.