How to Use the Power of NLP to Change Your Life in 7 Days (Complete in One Post)

WELCOME TO 7 DAYS TO NLP SUCCESS!

In “7 days to NLP Success: How to Persuade Anyone, Lose Weight and Achieve Anything.” I’ve broken down some of the basic NLP principles into seven days. On each day you will learn a little about a basic NLP principle and how you can use this to improve a specific area of your life.

To start your journey of discovery about Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) there are a basic series of presuppositions which will be useful for you to learn. By studying the basic foundational principles you will begin what will hopefully be a life long journey of self discovery and improvement.

The first principle and perhaps the most important is: The map is not the territory. This statement originated with a Polish count by the name of Korzybsk back in 1933. When you experience the world via your senses you make an internal map of this in your brain. Because this map is shaped by your own experiences this internal map will never be the same as anyone else’s. For example if I’m viewing a chess match my internal map will be much different to the one bobby Fischer forms if he watches exactly the same match. We are seeing exactly the same things but his breadth of knowledge, understanding of the game and personal experience will mean that his map will probably be nothing like mine.

We are constantly having sensory data thrust at us. It would be impossible to absorb all the data in a meaningful way so we have to filter this data. The process of filtration is heavily influenced by our values and our beliefs. We in a sense only receive the information that our experiences, social and cultural background are attuned to letting us receive.

For example imagine you are visiting a third world country. You might be amazed at the level of poverty. Because it is so different to your own expectations and experiences you cannot help but be astonished by the level of deprivation. But imagine instead that you were born into this environment, and had never lived anywhere else. To you it would seem normal. You would probably not even notice that there was so much lack or if you did you would just accept it as being a regular part of life. If you want to communicate with someone it becomes much easier if you understand their internal map. People respond to the world according to their internal map. While their behaviour may seem strange to you, it may seem completely irrational. It is based on their internal map.

Another presupposition you will want to take on board is that there is no failure only feedback. Many people allow themselves to get weighed down with what they perceive as past failures. But this is really only feedback. For example it is fact that most successful business people fail in a business venture before finally succeeding. What separates the successful business person from the unsuccessful one it to be able to take a business failure as merely feedback as a strategy this does not work in this context. By taking this information on board they are able to formulate a more successful strategy

One of the most empowering principles that NLP offers is that Individuals have all the resources they need to achieve their desired outcomes. By this it means that while you may not currently have the internal resources that you need to achieve your outcome. You do currently posses the internal resources to find the internal and external resources you will require to achieve your outcome.

Next you should understand every behaviour has a positive intent. Even if the behaviour is non productive it still has a positive intent behind it. This positive intent is called secondary gain. Take for example a gang member who commits a drive by shooting. This would seem to have no positive intent. But there is secondary gain in that he will gain acclaim and recognition amongst his peer. By identifying the person’s positive intent we can find more productive or beneficial ways of satisfying that intention.

“Seven Days to NLP Success” will look at how you can use NLP to improve your health. The core principle behind this is the mind and body are interlinked and affect each other. This is really a pretty simple idea. A healthy mind and body work together and treat each other.

Finally you will also learn later in the book how to use NLP to improve yourself and your social position in life. NLP offers a great tool to speed up your success with the principle Modelling successful performance leads to excellence. If you want to be great in a particular field and you have you can model someone else who is successful in that field and achieve the same outcomes they have.

NLP can assist you in all areas of your life. In particular it can help you to

·        Motivate yourself and others

·        Communicate effectively

·        Think positively

·        Achieve the outcomes that you desire

NLP has been described as the study of human excellence and I think that this is a pretty fitting description. NLP has its origins in the 1970’s when a group of psychologists began to study successful people to see what it was about their behaviour that lead to their success. The psychologists in this group were John Grinder a linguist, Gregory Bateson an anthropologist and Richard Bandler a psychologists. Between them they were the fathers of the discipline we know as Neurolinguist Programming or NLP for short.

NLP is not a static science however and has evolved significantly since then. We know have a much better understanding of human behaviour and thought processes and this has been incorporated into NLP. One of the important things to understand is that we communicate with ourselves as well as communicating with other people. By using NLP we are able to more effectively communicate with and persuade other people. As well as this we also learn how to better communicate with ourselves so that we achieve our desired outcomes.

In Seven Days to NLP Success I have provided you with seven different areas of your life that you can use NLP to improve. Before beginning to use NLP it is important that you set out your intention. Your intentions are the outcome that you want to achieve. Without a clear idea of where we are going it is unlikely that you will reach your desired destination. If you want to go to the grocery store then before you leave your house it’s a good idea to know where it is or at least that you want to actually visit the grocery store. If you just leave your house and start wandering around you might reach the grocery store but it is not likely.

So the first question you need to answer is what area of your life is that you would like to improve? Would you like to a be a more effective public speaker? Would you like to lose weight? Would you like to make money or increase your sales?

The key is to knowing your outcome. NLP has the tools to get you there but you must know what it is that you want to use it for. Some of you may wish to improve in all seven areas of your life covered in this book. That is perfectly acceptable provided that you set this intention from the start.

If this is your first introduction to the world of NLP then you are in for a special treat. Understanding that there are actual tools that you can use to change any aspect of your life can be incredibly liberating. Remember the tools are there for you to use but it is up to you to put them to work.

DAY ONE: IMPROVE YOUR HEALTH

Many health problems have their root cause in one thing: stress. NLP recognises that there is a mind / body connection which means that the two are inextricably linked. Unfortunately these day’s people are more stressed out than ever before. Thanks to modern communications and the internet we are accessible at all times and the expectations placed on us can feel insurmountable. We also seem to have an ever increasing amount of responsibilities to deal with and only a fixed amount of hours in the day to get things done. Chronic fatigue and stress can have serious effects on your health. Fatigue can weaken your body’s immunity system and leave you susceptible to disease and illness.

NLP provides a variety of tools to help you reduce or remove stress and any fears you may have of becoming ill. Y use NLP to condition a new set of healthier behaviours to overcome any unhealthy patterns you may have had in the past. Here is an exercise you can use next time that you are feeling stressed. You can do this exercise standing, lying down or sitting in a comfortable chair.

Step One: First start to relax your muscles. While you are doing this smile. Even if you don’t feel like smiling just smile. Hold the smile for at least twenty seconds. It is important to remember that your physiology is connected to your internal mood. By mimicking a happy unstressed physical state we can help put ourselves into that state.

Step Two: Now imagine a place where you feel happy, or perhaps a place you have felt happy in the past. Possibly it will be somewhere that you vacation. Or maybe it is the favourite room of your house. Remember that place vividly now in your mind. See the colors of that place. If you are at the beach, hear the sound of the water gently lapping on the beach. Try and picture this place as vividly as possible.

Step Three: Next you will concentrate on your breathing. Take a deep breath, bring the air all the way down, and then hold for a count of five seconds. One of the best ways to release tension is to concentrate on your breathing.

Step Four: Now say the words “I feel incredibly relaxed and I feel fantastic” Keep thinking about the place that makes you happy.

Step Five: Now breathe out and let the stress flow from your body. While you do this tap a certain part of your body. This could be your hip for example. Each time you repeat this process tap the same body part. This technique is known as anchoring. Now whenever you are feeling stressed. Just simply tap your hip and you will be returned to the relaxed state that you feel now.

Step six: Repeat the process above for about five repetitions or until you are no longer feeling stressed. Neuro Linguistic Programming is really about creating new patterns, and you can achieve this through repetition.

One of the key tenets of NLP is that we have the ability to choose between our internal states. While we have no control over what happens to us in the external world. For example you cannot help being hit by another car. You can choose the mental state that is associated with that external event. If you want to live a life that is less stressed and is healthier then you need to learn how to deal with your stressors. Much of the stress that we experience is essentially self generated. We tell ourselves that we are unable to cope with a particular situation, or we are unable to achieve a certain target. More often than not we are the reason for our increased level of stresses. You are in a sense hypnotising yourself into a stressful state. While this may sound overwhelmingly negative it is important to understand that is in fact quite empowering. You have complete control over your own mental states and you can decide how you feel.

NLP can be combined with the power of hypnosis to open up your mind to the possibilities of a stress free life. Once you are in a relaxed state of mind it will be possible to make positive suggestions in order to reframe your current mind set. You are the creator of your current stressed out mindset. But this can be replaced with a more empowering set of thoughts and behaviours. You will find that you can create a sense of appreciation where you are grateful for the things that you have and the opportunities that are available to you. You will also be able to find greater pleasure in the more simple aspects of your day to day life. Overall by combining NLP with the power of hypnosis you can live a healthier and more fulfilling life.

If you are suffering from high stress levels the best treatment is often hypnotherapy combined with the principles of NLP. When you are in hypnotic trance you will be able to be treated with regression or recall strategies. These can help to identify and treat subconscious and pervasive reasons for your stress. The principles of hypnotherapy are derived from Milton Erikson. Erickson’s teachings are some of the foundational principles of NLP. He was an American Psychiatrist why was known for his ability to cure psychological and behavioural problems using unconventional psychotherapy techniques. This is now known as Erickson Hypnosis.

Erikson identified a series of conversational techniques which could induce a hypnotic trance in the patient while conducting a normal conversation. This is a very light state of hypnotic induction; however it is adequate to reframe the mind so that the person is not stressed by the same external triggers.

Remember that the overall health of your body is inextricably linked to the way that you think. By using NLP techniques such as hypnosis, reframing and anchoring it is possible to install a new set of more positive mental frames. This will allow you to live a healthier and stress free life.

DAY TWO: HOW TO PERSUADE A CROWD

Being an effective public speaker can make a huge impact on your life. People who are able to reach out and influence crowds of people have real power to affect positive change. While being an effective communicator one on one is a great skill to have, being able to reach many people at the same time whether that is a few dozen, hundreds or even thousands will multiple the impact that you can have. Unfortunately many if not most people are terrified of speaking in public. It consistently ranks as one of the most common fears that people have. That’s sad, not just because it limits these people ability to have an impact, but it also means they can’t partake it what can be a really fun activity. Luckily NLP has the tools to help you become an effective public even if you are deathly afraid of public speaking at the moment. Even if you are confident in your public speaking at the moment, NLP will show you how you can improve your skills so that you are better able to influence your audience.

Probably the first thing I would say about public speaking is that, like most things it comes down to practice. If you look at the effective public speakers they usually have one thing in common and that is that they speak a lot. If you want to be a better public speaker you really just need to start making more speeches. Very few people start out as great speakers, but almost anyone can become one if they are willing to practice.

One of the principles that NLP teaches is to start with the outcome in mind. This is also true of public speaking. Thinking about what the purpose of your speech is. What do you want your audience to take away from the speech? How do you want them to respond at the speech? What is the message that you are trying to get across?

The next step is working on the content of your speech. Remember people all have different dominant senses. These are Visual, Auditory or Kinaesthetic. When you are trying to reach you audience there will be people with different dominant sense. It is important that you reach all these people. Of course there is no way of knowing what dominant senses a crowd of strangers has. That’s why you want to mix up your presentation. You want to include visual imagery such as pictures and slide shows to reach the visual orientated people. You should vary your pitch for the auditory oriented listeners and have some element of touch for the kinaesthetic people.

Before you give your speech you will want to put yourself in the correct state. This is where Anchors can be very useful. Think about the way you want to come across on stage. For some speeches a more humorous approach will be best. At others you will want to be more serious and dignified. Think about the state that most matches your speech. In order to put yourself in this state before you go onstage to speak you will need to think about a time in your past when you were in that state.

Think carefully about that time, visualising it carefully, hold your body now as you did then, and think about your breathing, how did you breathe? If you want to appear confident and energetic, were you standing up right? How you were head tilted? Visualise exactly what it was like to be in this state. If you haven’t been in that state, look at someone else, on TV who is in the state you want to be, and then replicate that state.

Now you want to be able to recall that state just before you need it. In order to do this you will want to drop an anchor. When you are in the peak of the state, do something with your hands. Squeeze them into a fist. Or make a ring with the thumb and first finger. Now relax. See if you can recall the state by doing the same hand motion. See if it puts you back in that state. If not repeat the exercise until it is firmly imbedded. Remember with speaking as in all things practice makes perfect.

DAY THREE: HOW TO SELL TO ANYBODY

The NLP practitioner has a certain approach when it comes to making sales. In essence the approach is about building a relationship first and then making a sale. You should ask yourself, what is more profitable? Making one sale through hard selling techniques, burning your client out, and never selling that person again. Or is a better approach to develop a relationship with that person. Finding out what they want and what their problems are, and then providing a solution to their problems. By building a relationship with your client you will be able to sell them your product and service multiple times. Overall developing relationships and addressing the actual needs of your customers is both more profitable and straight out less work.

The techniques that NLP can teach you will help you to instantly create rapport with the person that you are talking to. We buy things from people that we like or that we feel are like us. As a salesperson you will often encounter people who are quite different to you. The fact is that not everybody thinks the same way you do. You don’t even have to like the person you are talking with to create rapport if you use NLP. You also may only have a very small window to sell something to that client. This is where being able to create rapport quickly is so important for sales. Once you are in rapport with someone, then you will have the opportunity to cultivate a relationship with them. But the first step to sales is always to create rapport.

Rapport is essentially about creating a two way connection with somebody. It is about establishing a genuine level of trust and respect between two people. One of the best techniques to create rapport is known as matching and mirroring. This NLP technique involves copying someone’s behaviour and values in order to form rapport with that person. You have probably seen plenty of examples when people are not in rapport. Watch for example a panel discussion where one person holds conservative political views and the other liberal. You will see that they are certainly not in rapport with each other. The way they talk will be different, the pitch of their voice, their body language and of course their values couldn’t be more different. Then watch a couple who are in love, and the way that they relate to each other. There is an effortlessness to people who are in love in the way that they move in sync with each other. When they go to hold the other persons hand it is right there waiting for them. They talk easily and comfortably with the other person, and nothing seems forced. The whole point of rapport building with NLP is that you don’t have to be in love with the other person in order to comfortably engage with them. You only have to match and mirror their behaviour.

One of the best ways to match and mirror someone is to first mirror their body language. While you don’t want to be obvious about this. If the other person notices you mimicking them, then rapport will definitely be broken. You can push this further than you might imagine. People don’t think much about their own body language. So if you observe them, and then start to subtly copy them it is very unlikely that the other person will notice. Remember the matching and mirroring technique always begins with observation.

Once you have started to mirror their physical behaviour. Notice the tone of voice and speed at which they speak. This is very important because if you are a person who talks very loudly and your customer talks very quietly it is easy to upset them. It is up to you as the NLP salesperson to adjust your behaviour to theirs. If this bothers you, remember that there is real power in this approach. Would you rather be effective and successful? Or act the way you always do and be unsuccessful? I would say that a successful salesperson will choose the former every time. So alter first the volume you are speaking to match the other person. Then either speed up or slow down your speech so that you are speaking at the same speed as the other person.

Once you have established the same body language and speech patterns as the customer. Next you want to mirror their breathing. There is something very important about breathing that reaches us at a very primitive level. If you are breathing in time with someone you are almost certainly in rapport with them. Along with this you want to match the other persons overall energy levels. If the other person is highly energetic then you may need to up your own energy levels. Generally with sales people it’s the other way around. You are a bundle of energy and the customer is more reserved. Slow yourself down and operate at the customer’s energy level.

The great thing is once you have created rapport with someone. Then you can start to lead the other person. You have to make sure that you have actually established rapport before you begin leading, but once you have that rapport then you can start to control the flow of the conversation. Experiment with leading by altering your body movements and see if the other person follows you. If not you may have to build further rapport before you can lead.

Creating rapport with someone is an excellent way to establish a relationship with them. Matching and mirroring is a powerful technique you can use to speed up the process. Remember however that there are other ways of creating rapport too. Observe any keywords and phrases that the other person uses and try and build these into the conversation. Also it is important to take a genuine interest in what the other person is saying. Try and understand things from their point of view. It is vital that you understand the client before they understand you. You also need to be respectful of your client’s time, their relationships and their money.

Using rapport can help you to establish a relationship with anyone. This will greatly increase your chances of establishing working relationships with many different people and as a result increase your overall sales. Remember to create a relationship first, and then sell. The impact on your sales can be massive.

DAY FOUR: GAIN SELF CONFIDENCE

One of the most effective ways to improve you self confidence is through affirmations. Affirmations are a way for you to change any belief that may be holding you back. A well written affirmation can help you to achieve the outcome in life that you desire. Whether we like it or not, we self talk to ourselves all day. However if you don’t take control of this self talk it can easily become negative. These are negative affirmations such as “I’m not a confident person.” Or “I’m going to fail.” You will need to replace the negative affirmations with positive affirmations.

Make Sure You Are Addressing The Core Issue. When we write our affirmation we have to make sure that we are addressing the real issue. What you see as the problem you want to remedy may only be a symptom of a more underlying problem. For example you may say you want a raise of $50 a week. But perhaps the real issue is one of self confidence or motivation.

Next you want to write your affirmations in the present tense. For example “I now weigh 70 kilograms.” Is in the present tense where as “I am going to weigh 70 kilograms” Is not. The difference is important because your mind doesn't know exactly when this is going to take place, so you may be waiting a while.

Affirmations have to be about YOU. You cannot write affirmations about other people. For example “My employees are a hard working, diligent and always on time.” Instead an affirmation would be more along the lines of “I lead people to accomplish all that they can with passion and excitement.” Remember NLP is concerned with SELF Improvement. Change yourself first and the world will follow.

Use energy in your affirmations. Use words such as passionate, excited, and delighted. You want your affirmations to have force. Find the words that are right for you and drive you one. Also remember that your affirmation should be positive. Never write what you don’t want only what you do want. However if you are having trouble identifying exactly what it is that you do want. First write down what it is that you don’t want. For example “I don’t want to be thin.” The opposite is that you want to be thin and healthy, this is your affirmation.

Keep your affirmation short and specific, so that they have a greater impact. If appropriate you could include numbers or who you will be with.

Next when you say your affirmation use visualisation. In your mind act as if that state has already come to pass. Your mind cannot differentiate between what is in your mind and what is real. If you visualise with regularity and intensity then eventually your mind has no choice but to close the gap between external reality and your current situation..

DAY FIVE: CREATE FANTASTIC RELATIONSHIPS

Many people would like to improve the quality of their relationships. Whether it is with a family member or your partner having well functioning relationships is essential to living a healthy life. It is also important to have well functioning relationships in business as well. Being able to relate with your colleagues, boss or employees is vital for the success of your career. One of NLP’s greatest strengths is in improving the quality of relationships and communication between people.

One of the first things that you need to understand is that you are responsible for one hundred percent of the communication that takes place between you and another person. An important principle in NLP is that the meaning of communication is the response it elicits It doesn’t matter what you intend when you communicate with someone. It only matters how it is received. The response that you receive from your communication is its meaning.

As the communicator the responsibility of relaying your message is on you not the receiver. For example you maybe a very physical person and you wish to express your love to someone else, to do so you give them a hug. To a person who doesn’t like physical contact this may not communicate a sense of love but perhaps a sense of uncomfortableness or impropriety. You cannot just say that it is their problem; that they have issues and should be more open to physical contact. The responsibility is on you to communicate your love in a way that they are open too

How do you know the right way to communicate? First think about your outcome. What is it that you want to achieve? From this starting position work out a plan to effectively relay your message so that this outcome is achieved.

Next if what you are doing isn’t working do something different. This may seem obvious but so many people aren’t successful in their approach. They realise that it is not working but they keep on doing it. Look at many people’s relationships. Couples will argue constantly. They are obviously not getting the results that they would like, in this case a happy relationship. But they still continue to communicate the same way towards their partner. Realise this; it is a lot easier to change your own behaviour than it is to change someone else’s. If your first attempt at communication is unsuccessful then try a different way of communicating. How many times should you change your approach? As many times as it takes to achieve your outcome.

Another key to using NLP to improve your relationships is to understand that you can’t not communicate. Even if you said nothing you will still be communicating. If you are angry with someone but you refrain from shouting your body language will still give you away. The way you hold yourself, your posture, and the tone of your voice tells people a lot more than the actual words that you use. Verbal communication is as little as 7% of the message that you convey.

DAY SIX: MANAGE YOUR TIME EFFECTIVELY

Perhaps the most precious resource that we have is time. Although we may sometimes think that money is more important than the time we spend on acquiring it this is not in fact true. Money is abundant and there is an almost infinite supply of it. Whereas time is something that each of us has in a very limited supply. In order to accomplish what we would like to achieve we must manage our time effectively. Being able to manage your time will allow you to get more done, feel less stressed and free up more spare time for other things that you like to do.

NLP makes a distinction between two types of time –

In time – Where you are in the moment

Through time – Where you step out of time to look at the past, present and future

When you are taking action you want to be in time. But when you want to plan your time it is better to be in through time. It is important to understand that the idea of counting time, through the use of a clock, is an abstraction. It originated in the industrial revolution when it became necessary to keep workers to a strict timetable. NLP can teach you to manipulate time so that you can move from in time to through time. While time manipulation is too large a topic to cover in this eBook I have provided you with some techniques to help you manage your time more effectively.

Firstly you need to plan and prioritise your work. It really is as simple as working out what the most important things are that you need to do. What will move your overall goals forward? And then do those things first. If something is not moving you towards either your short or long term goals then it is not vital that you do it.

Next up, if you want to get things done you need to be enthusiastic about doing them. The way to achieve this is change your attitude. NLP offers a range of different tools to help change your attitude. If you want a quick way to get yourself in a more resourceful state where you can get more done, check out the section on personal development in this book. There you will find a technique to put yourself in a resourceful state so that you can get more done.

You need to focus on the task at hand. Work on only one task at a time. Do not allow yourself to get distracted. If necessary turn off your cell phone and make sure other people do not disturb you. Start working on the first task on your list. Work until you complete this task and then move on to the next task. The secret is to only do one thing at a time and not to think about whatever else may need to be done.

You also need time to recharge. Make sure that you are taking consistent small breaks throughout the day. There is no point in sitting in front a keyboard and monitor for hours on end if you are achieving nothing. Give your mind some time to recharge. Every half an hour get up, make a cup of tea, walk around for five minutes and then return to work. Also make sure that you establish a good work/ life balance.

You need to learn how to delegate. There is simply not enough time to do everything yourself. Think about the tasks that you have to do in a day. Which of these tasks can only be done by you and nobody else? These are the tasks that you should do. If there are other tasks that somebody else could do then get them to do it. Don’t worry about the fact that you could do the task faster than someone else. What is important is whether that task can only be done by you.

Make sure that the work that you are doing is aligned with your values. It is important that you are doing work that is important to you. Getting a lot done will be a lot easier if you are committed to the work.

Think back to times in the past when you have managed your time very effectively. You are the best judge of how to manage your own time. Think about what you did at those times which is different to what you normally do. How was it that you managed to get so much done in such a short space of time?

One of the most important things to understand about time management is the fact that the many of the things we do on a daily basis aren’t that important to moving us towards the place we want to be. Creating an inspiring future and thinking about what exactly you need to achieve to reach it, will help you to prioritise your tasks.

DAY SEVEN: STEP UP TO SUCCESS

One of the major reasons that people become interested in NLP is for personal development. Almost all of us feel that we are not quite at the level that we could be performing at. Not only is this a feeling natural, it is a good one too. The desire to develop oneself is what drives us forward to a higher plane of greatness. NLP can provide you with the tools that you need to develop yourself into the person you know you can be.

One of the major difficulties we face is to move forward even when things are going very badly for us. It is easy to move forward when the world seems to be going in our favour. But when we face adversity we often feel resource less and unable to summon motivation. One of the great things about NLP is that you can use the technique known as anchoring to quickly bring yourself back into a state of resourcefulness and confidence. Once you are in this state you will be ready to tackle whatever challenges you face.

An anchor can be defined as an external stimulus which sets off an internal state. We already have anchors in place. It’s just that we are usually unaware of them. The smell of fried chicken is a classic example of an anchor, which stimulates a certain reaction. For most people this is an internal state of hunger and desire. The interesting thing to realise is that NLP offers you the tools to change what this anchor means for you. Imagine if you were trying to lose weight and you could change the anchor of the smell of fried food to one of disgust rather than hunger. Wouldn’t this be a useful thing to be able to do?

One of the things most people want from personal development is to discover a way to put ourselves into a resourceful state. Here is a simple way for you to be able to create a resourceful state on cue.

·        Firstly get clear exactly about what kind of state you want to be in. One of the keys to NLP is to be clear about your intentions. How do you want to feel in your resourceful state? Do you want to be energetic? Do you want to be calm? Do you want to be confident? You need to know exactly what resourceful means to you.

·        Next think back to a time when you were in that resourceful state. You need to find a time when you felt resourceful, however it does not need to be similar to the situation you are in now.

·        Finally you want to relive that time now in your mind. Whenever you are visualising something in your mind with NLP it is important to be very clear about what it looks like. You need to recall exactly the sight, sounds, smells and feelings of what that time was like. Give yourself enough time to vividly recall what it was like. Your image should be like you would see in a movie. Full of color and sound.

·        Once you have achieved your peak resourceful state it is time to set your anchor. Generally a hand movement makes a good anchor. Typical hand movements are clenching the fist. Or making a circle with the thumb and first finger.

Now in the future whenever you need to get back to that resourceful state simply fire the anchor. Just do the same hand motion that you did at that time in order to trigger the state. Repetition is key here. You may need to reinforce the anchor over a period of time for it to stick in your mind.

Another very useful NLP tool when it comes to NLP is modelling. Modelling is one of the fastest ways for you to achieve success. At its essence it say that if you do the same things as someone who is already having success in the area that you want to achieve in, then you can replicate that success. There are many ways for you to learn new skills. For example you could go to class or read a book. Bur the fastest way to accelerate the process is through modelling.

In modelling you are looking for an exemplar. This is someone who is particularly competent in the area in which you wish to succeed. This person becomes a model of how a person can succeed in this area. When you are modelling someone you want to look for underlying patterns in the way that they behave. You want to examine not just their physical actions but also their beliefs s and values. It is important that you get to the root of these if you want to achieve the same level of success as they have.

To be a successful modeller you have to be questioning and an excellent observer. Mastering the skill of modelling can have a massive impact on your success however so it is well worth learning. Remember that closer that you can get to the person that you are modelling the easier it will be to effectively model them.

It’s Your Future

NLP offers techniques and knowledge to help you in almost every area of your life. One of the fantastic things about NLP is that it is a constantly developing and evolving field. As we learn more about how the human brain works and what drives us NLP adapts.

Remember NLP is only effective if you put it into practise. Simply reading the principles found within this book and will not change anything in your life. You must take action. NLP has the tools change your life in ways that you could only dream were possible. But you are the only one who can make it happen.

Per aspera ad astra!

“Through difficulties to the stars!”